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The question has to be asked - what responsibility does she bear

I see so many people who are so down on the attackers (and justifiably so) but make no mention of this girl's part in it..

She was underage, drunk off her tookas and hanging out with a group of people who she didn't know...

How could any reasonable train of thought lead her to conclude that this would end well?

To be sure - the men/boys who took advantage of her are criminals beyond doubt, but it was her poor choices that landed her in that situation- it's not as if they grabbed her and drug her off and had their way with her - she willingly went and choose to consume so much alcohol that she was not in control of her self.

Further, her lack of judgement and obvious level of intoxication cast doubt on the nature of the interaction (people tend to do things that seem grand at the moment but turn out quite differently when considered without the filter of alcohol)

Perhaps she was raped, perhaps she was drunk and horny - the point being that given her state of sobriety - I doubt she could provide an entirely honest answer to that question - even to her self. When a person has drunk enough to reach a unconsious state - their perceptions and memory are dramatically affected.

None of this has any bearing on the behaviour of the males involved though - even if she was amorous, they should have had the decency to take back inside before things got out of hand.

But it is quite obvious that the situation is a fair portion at least of her own making, and she should bear some responsibility for it.

Penetrating someone who cannot consent--be it due to age, state of inebriation or just plain saying no--is rape. Rape is not ever, ever, ever the victim's fault. Human beings have a right to not have others physically assault them no matter what they drank, what they are wearing or who they are with.

This girl had to be flown to a hospital due to her numerous and horrific injuries. And this might have meant she was just horny? Are you absolutely out of your mind?

It is not up to women and girls to stay home, locked in their rooms, covered from head to toe, never to consume a drop of alcohol. It is up to men not to rape. It is the responsibility of men not to penetrate or otherwise sexually touch a woman or girl who is saying no, too drunk to say no or who is too young to say yes.

Here. Maybe this will help:

How to Prevent Rape

If a woman is drunk, don’t rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don’t rape her.
If a women is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don’t rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don’t rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you’re still hung up on, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don’t rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don’t rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don’t rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don’t rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don’t rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don’t rape her.
If your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend.
If your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there’s an unconscious woman upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape her, call the police and tell the guy he’s a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it’s not okay to rape someone.
Don’t tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
Don’t imply that she could have avoided it if she’d only done/not done x.
Don’t imply that it’s in any way her fault.
Don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.