So the big date on Saturday.. didn’t happen. It’s now been postponed and rescheduled. The flake-meter is still running on this one... may have to cut bait!
The big question is just when do you cut a guy loose? I am terrible at this. I always want to give the person the benefit of the doubt. Then the answer hit me while watching The Dave Ramsey Show. Yes, while I was listening to ol’ Dave tell me to stop using my credit cards and get outta debt, I stumbled onto help for folks who just don’t know when to pull the plug.
Dave was talking to stay-at-home moms about how they got out of debt. One woman called in about a website she started from home called www.LuvemOrLeavem.com which has now become a booming home business for her.
The idea of LuvemOrLeavem is simple. Women and men at a crossroads in their relationship post their dilemma and other people tell them if they should love ‘em or leave ‘em. It’s basically an open forum for relationship advice. Hopefully the people who are responding to the problems have been in that situation themselves and can offer sound advice. It would really suck if you broke up with the love of your life based on the opinion of some crazy shut-in whose only relationships involve their computer mouse and the Sims!
Here’s a few of the posts I found:
"my b/f of a year and a half never takes me out anymore. like he did as when we first started dating. now i am four months pregnant and i dont know what to think"
shorty89
Kat’s advice: Leave ‘em with the kid after you give birth – go out with your friends and find a better man!
"I have known this guys for over a year and a half, and after we were seeing each other for over 6 months I wanted the "girlfriend" title because I started to get insecure. He explained to me that he just got out of a 5 year relationship and he just wanted the "single" title. We had a long talk and we are only intimate with one another but he still doesn't want a girlfriend. Both my family and his family consider us boyfriend and girlfriend. My girl friends consider us together but my guy friends say I'm stupid and the reason he doesn't want the title is because he is not only with me.
What do you all think should I just leave things the way they are or do I have something to worry about?"
Cutie2000fl
Kat’s advice: Keep ‘em as a friend with benefits. And go find yourself a real boyfriend!
"We've been working out the details of this wedding, and I told my fiance that I wanted a boy/girl bridal shower so we can have couples and a few of my gay friends as well. He thought it was a great idea until he got feedback from his family. They never heard of anything like that and they think it's stupid. So they want a hen party, which I detest!!! He says maybe we can have 2 showers so everybody's happy. I thought we were the ones getting married. I'm running out of patience with this whole process."
Tjgirl
Kat’s advice: Leave his lame family! Girl, do you know the awesome wedding gifts you’re gonna get from your gay friends??!!!!
"I am dating a really great looking guy, but he's so into his looks. Before we go out he's always asking me how his hair looks, if I like what he's wearing, etc. If he wanted to impress me, I think he would do all this before he saw me, not be looking for my opinion the moment he sees me. It makes me think that he just wants me to help him look good when he goes out just for his own ego. Am I reading too much into this?"
Funnyface
Kat’s advice: In the words of Harry Belafonte: ‘If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.’ In the words of my Granny Smith: ‘Never trust a man who's prettier than you!!!!’
"I just found out the guy I've been dating has profiles on all the dating sites. He's left behind a trail of women when a new one responds to his profile and he decides to see if he's missing out on a better deal. I know this because I confronted him when he received calls from old girlfriends while I was there. He says he's done with all that since he's met me, but I don't believe he can change so easily (plus I don't see his online accounts being deactivated). Can a guy like this really change?"
Greeneyes
Kat’s advice: OMG!!! I think this is the same guy who left me hanging on Saturday!!!!! Whatever! I gotta go download the new edition of Sims Apartment Life!
